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For young people

What is violence?

Many young people experience violence in their relationships. Often, people think of violence as hitting or kicking, but it can also involve other forms of control or harm. Violence can include someone threatening you, controlling what you do, saying hurtful things, or pressuring you into sexual activities you don’t want to engage in.

Digital violence

Digital violence is when someone controls or harasses you through your phone or social media. It can be someone tracking you on Snap Map, going through your phone, or reading your messages. It can also be someone deciding who you are allowed to follow on social media or sharing pictures or videos of you without your consent. If you feel pressured to always respond right away, or if someone sends you mean messages and doesn’t stop even when you ask them to, that is also an example of digital violence.

Sexual violence

Sexual violence is when someone says or does something sexual to you without your consent. It can be someone touching you even though you say no or show that you don’t want to, or forcing you to touch someone else. It can also involve doing something sexual to you when you are drunk, under the influence of drugs, or asleep. Taking or sharing naked pictures of you, pressuring you to watch porn, or nagging you until you agree to have sex are also examples of sexual violence.

Psychological violence

Psychological violence is when someone uses threats, control, or insults to limit your life and make you feel insecure, scared, or worthless. An example could be someone threatening to hurt themselves or you if you stop seeing them, or someone threatening to reveal something private about you. Control can also involve monitoring what you do, going through your phone, or deciding what you should wear or do in your free time. Manipulation and mean comments, like saying you are worthless or that everything is your fault, are also signs of psychological violence.

Physical violence

Physical violence is when someone harms your body or does something that causes you pain or discomfort, such as hitting, pushing, or causing bruises. It can range from someone pulling your hair, hitting or kicking you, to pointing a weapon at you. Physical violence can also include forcing you to make eye contact, holding you down so you can’t move, or hiding things you need to be able to move and feel well, like medications or assistive devices.

We listen if you want to talk

Kvinnofridslinjen offers support and advice to anyone who has been subjected to threats, control, sexual assault, or other forms of violence by someone close to them. You can also contact us if you have questions about violence or if you are worried about a friend. We are specially trained to support people affected by violence in relationships and difficult situations.

You can call 24 hours a day

You can call 116 016 at any time. The person answering speaks Swedish, but an interpreter can be arranged if needed. You can also chat with us anonymously in Swedish on our website

You remain anonymous

You can remain anonymous when you call or chat, and we have a duty of confidentiality. We can’t see your phone number or IP address, and we will never call you back.

You can call 24 hours a day

You can call 116 016 at any time. The person answering speaks Swedish, but an interpreter can be arranged if needed. You can also chat with us anonymously in Swedish on our website

You remain anonymous

You can remain anonymous when you call or chat, and we have a duty of confidentiality. We can’t see your phone number or IP address, and we will never call you back.

Common questions

How do I know if my relationship is healthy or unhealthy?

It’s not always easy to tell. But if you often feel sad, insecure, or scared, it can be a good idea to talk to someone. You’re always welcome to call us if you have questions about what a healthy relationship looks like, or if something has happened that doesn’t feel right.
What should I do if someone is pressuring me to do something I don't want to?

It’s never okay for someone to pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. You always have the right to say no. If you’re unsure how to say it or what to do, you can talk to us. We’re here to listen and can give you advice on how to set boundaries in a way that feels right for you.
Can I contact you even if I haven't experienced violence?

Yes! Whether you have experienced violence yourself or just have questions, we are here to listen and support you.
Can I get help if I don't want to talk to my parents or friends?

Yes! When you contact us, you remain completely anonymous, and nothing you tell us will be shared with your parents, friends, or anyone else. Our conversations are confidential and are not recorded anywhere others can access them.
What should I do if I'm worried about a friend?

If you’re concerned about a friend, you can always reach out to us. We can give you advice on how to support your friend in the best way possible.
Will you tell anyone what I say?

We have a duty of confidentiality and will not share what you tell us with anyone else. If you are under 18 and you give us your name, where you live, and tell us that you are in a difficult situation, we may need to contact your local social services so they can help you. We would never do this without telling you first.

Questions about digital violence

My boyfriend forces me to have Snap Map on, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to force you to share your location or control where you are.
The girl I'm dating sends lots of messages and gets angry if I don't reply right away, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to harass you with messages or get angry because you don’t respond immediately. You have the right to set boundaries around when and how you communicate.
My boyfriend always wants to go through my phone, is that okay?

No one has the right to go through your phone or read your messages without your consent.

Questions about sexual violence

My girlfriend gets upset if we don't have sex, is that okay?

No one has the right to pressure you into having sex if you don’t want to. Consent is fundamental in any sexual relationship — it must always be voluntary for both people.
The guy I'm seeing forces me to send nudes even though I don't want to, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. You have the right to set boundaries, and being forced to send nude pictures is a form of sexual violence.
My boyfriend says we have to have sex or he’ll leave me, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to try to manipulate you into sex through threats or pressure. Sex should always be something that both people want and agree to freely.
What does consent really mean?

Consent means that everyone agrees on what is happening and genuinely wants the same thing. It’s about making sure no one feels forced or pressured into doing something they don’t want to do. If you’re unsure about what’s okay or what consent means in a sexual situation, you’re welcome to call us.

Questions about psychological violence

My boyfriend controls what I do with my friends and says I have to choose between them and him, is that okay?

No one should try to isolate you from your friends or force you to give up people who make you happy. You have the right to have your own social life and spend time with whoever you want.
The guy I'm seeing tells me I should eat less because I need to lose weight, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to try to control your body or your weight. You have the right to feel good in your own body and eat what you want without feeling pressured.
My partner says I'm just too sensitive when I get upset, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to make you doubt your own feelings. You have the right to be yourself and to feel what you feel without being put down.

Questions about physical violence

My partner forces me to do things I don't want to by threatening to hit me, is that okay?

It’s not okay for someone to threaten you with violence to get their way. You have the right to feel safe and respected in your relationship.
The guy I'm seeing pushed me during an argument, is that okay?

No one has the right to use physical force to control or hurt you. It’s never okay for someone to shove, push, or use any kind of physical violence against you.
My boyfriend destroys my things when we argue, is that okay?

Destroying your belongings or damaging things to control you is a form of violence and is never okay.